Wednesday, May 03, 2006

The Organization is Lost

Saying for the Day: You can do it my way or get lost.

The problems Betty is having in her TOPS group caused me to raise this question. “Why do people who belong to helping organizations lose sight of their purpose and get caught up in rules or other things?”
I have seen it happen over and over in all kinds of organizations .It happens in churches, in weight loss groups, in veteran’s organizations, in support groups of one kind of another, and even in youth groups.
The constitution becomes more important than the purpose. Rules and forms take precedent over the needs of members. Budgets and raising money leads to doing things that are contrary to the purpose and even detrimental to the purpose.
How does this happen?
How does a group go from one that deeply cares about people to one that cares more about using the right form, or raising money?
How does a group go from a family with shared responsibility to one where people look for power positions?
When it happens is there any way to get them back on track?
I think that every group needs to gather its members together once or twice a year and ask the question. “why are we here?” “What is our purpose for belonging to this group?” “ How do we meet that purpose?” “What are we doing that prevents us from meeting our purpose?”
It might just be enough to get the group back on track.
Or else join a different group.

9400 spins without a prize. Old Hapless is wondering if there are others out there that are playing the slot machine. If there are he wants to know if you have ever won. Does anybody win at IWON? You would think that 9400 spins he would have at least won the $5.00. Does anybody ever win the small prizes? Are they just for show? When you lose a lot questions like these begin to arise.
Well Uncle Wiggly lovers if Old Hapless doesn't discover all kinds of IWON winners and thus causing him to be to sad to blog. We will be back tomorrow with another chapter of " As the World Spins".

I went and had blood drawn this morning for tomorrow's Dr.'s visit. Betty just went to TOPS and I'll worry till she comes home. Betty came home, much relaxed, having given up her volunteer position as weight recorder. She built a general store with some really creative stuff inside. I worked on the little details for the main street. Well I need a breathing treatment.


Blogger Chana said...

I'm sorry to hear that Betty is having troubles in TOPS. I hope things work out soon. May i ask what is TOPS?

Re:your post. I can actually say that i have lived through on of these things myself. A few ladies, who were unhappy with education and the goings on in the general school decided to create a private, catholic school (still only one in town, but we have dozens of Christians one). The idea was amazingly accepted by all who wanted better schooling and safer places...I was one. I was thrilled. It was perfect. All the promises and goals though were forgotten within a few yrs, to the sadness of many including myself. The school went from being a safe space to being a money making, must compete with the tops other 'private' schools around and beat them. Getting in was all about $$$$ and still is...All the priorities changed and the death of many dreams caused a few tears...including mine. Many of us reminded the powers that be, the point of it all at the beginning. To no avail. People started leaving. The wonderful families that made our school incredible. But it matter not, as new families came, rich ones, ones with power and status in the city and province. I left not 3 yrs ago for it was a place i couldn't work in anymore and frankly i didn't was still is...Power and money change the very ones that envision a greater place for our kids...

5:09 AM  
Blogger Mimi said...

Tops is like Curves, right?

I am guessing that the other members are women. And women just can't get along. There are the few genuine ones like Betty. But they are few and far between. I avoid groups with women at all costs! LOL! We are our own worst enemies!

Before Durk got submarine disqualified for kidney stones, he tried to prepare me for what sub life was like. He told me about the wives club and how his ex always had trouble with it. The wives of the men on the boat who were higher up the ladder always tried to take charge and push the others around. They assumed that their husbands ranks carried on to them.

As much as us women say we wanna get along, we don't. I always preferred guy friends. I could always count on them to let me know about the toliet paper on my shoe by them laughing. A girl would not say anything so she would be the prettier one.

Betty is a kind person. I hope she finds a group worthy of her presense. Because Tops are the ones missing out!

6:46 AM  
Blogger Catch said...

This always happens because someone who has never had any power over anything in their lives has finally found something they think they can run! And women are the worst!!! I hope Betty just ignores them and goes about her merry way....ya gotta feel a little bit sorry for those other women...can you imagine how insecure they must be??? I dont pay any attention to women like that. There a dime a dozen.

8:44 AM  
Blogger Dr. Cissa Fireheart said...

Mimi said it all. It's just that we can't get along, and there is always at least ONE woman who thinks her poop don't stink and she is the Almishgty Leader and what she says's sad, but true....

I hope TOPS can work theier problems out and not stress Betty out too much

9:11 AM  
Blogger Lori's Minute said...

Good post today...I will think about it today. I am glad she is still going to TOPS because I would have probably avoided the whole situation so I applaud her!

10:57 AM  
Blogger Pennie said...

Well I often wonder why paper becomes more important than people.

4:37 PM  

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