Sunday, November 05, 2006

Forgiving

Saying for the day: The hardest thing about forgiving is deciding to do it.

Whenever I write or talk about forgiving I hear how hard it is.
There is something about our nature that makes it hard for us to stop being angry or resentful. We don’t really want to forgive.
But , assuming , you do want to forgive today I am sharing some helps in doing it.
1. Decide to forgive. You have to decide you no longer wish to be angry and upset.
If you haven’t decided to work at forgiving then you wont forgive.
2. Start by praying for the person you are angry at.
Pray that God would bless them.
3. Make a mental list of all the good things that you can think of about that person.
Sometimes we are so caught up in our anger that we forget its another one of God’s children that we are angry at and that there are some good things about them.
4. Act toward them as if you have forgiven them.
Your feelings and thoughts will follow the actions.
5. Don’t expect any thanks or appreciation from the person you forgive.
Remember you are doing this for you not them.
6. Accept the person as he or she is so you don’t get angry again.
7. Ask God to help you forgive.
Now if you do these things the miracle of forgivness will take place.
You will no longer be angry with the person or persons.

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News from Pigeon Falls-The little town in my garage where the trains still run and dragons fly free-Pastor marvel had a good sermon this morning. He said it was his every other year political sermon. He wanted people to remember that God is not a Republican or a Democrat. They need to remember that God values kindness and honesty not labels. It was important that the congregation use the freedom God has given to them and vote. He would not even try to tell them who to vote for. But he did say they should consider the character of the candidate as demonstrated all year long and not just in election sound bites.
Eino hopes that tomorrow he will hear from the FBI on the hermit. They might shed some light on the mystery.
Nancy says she is giving coffee at half price on election day to anybody who votes. She will take their word that they voted. Pigeon Falls is a pretty honest town. There is almost no crime . The only murder in as long as people can remember was of a pigeon. Lots of mysteries but not much crime . Tommy says that the way Mrs. Trumble chases that poor rabbit is a crime but that doesn’t count.
There was some excitement yesterday. The Tolfdads camp burned to the ground. It seems they were cooking some soup and it exploded. They were very lucky because nobody got hurt . There were six men in the camp at the time playing cards. Mr. Tolfdad says he was trying a new recipe he got from a blog and he forgot he wasn’t supposed to heat it. The men tried their best to put the fire out but when you have to carry water in a bucket from the lake it is almost impossible. It didn’t spread to the woods and that was one good thing.
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Well I preached. It was great to stand in the pulpit again. It was certainly not my greatest sermon. But for one who is short on breath and whose mind is not as sharp as it once was. It was passable. My son is wotking at getting some kind of audio for the net so I can share it with those who want to hear it. My son Peter and family, and my daughter were there and my sister came all the way from Illinois to share in the moment. People were so nice. I am thankful for every single one of them. In the afternoon we spent family time and put my son to work taking the table apart. Now there is no layout and no table. Well I need a breathing treatment.
GBYA

20 Comments:

Anonymous kat said...

Its very true that once you start acting like you've forgiven a person, the feelings usually follow. Good advice as always.
Nancy should really be Mayor, she certainly has her finger on the pulse of the public.

5:45 AM  
Blogger Chana said...

Good morning. A beautiful morning it is, Nov. 5..a day so many of us which we can celebrate and share with you and your family.
But surely know, that I and many more, i'm sure, will be right there with you in spirit.

I'm delighted that your children and grandchildren are there with you, to honor you and enjoy in the day. How blessed a day it is..

Now, i know yesterday you did the first sermon. And i read how you weren't that crazy about it..but i say to you sir, that i'm sure that we would have to argue with you on that. I know it was wonderful and i know that today's will be awesome.

(i will be later to do my official comment on today's post..i just wanted to be here first thing, to send you off with best wishes)

Not only have a joyful time from behind the pulprit spreding the Word of God. How lucky the congregation is! But enjoy, the sendoff to a wonderful man, pastor and friend..Your family was a great addition to the town. Surely, you all will be missed and never forgotten.

5:46 AM  
Blogger Smythe said...

From someone who has had to learn how to forgive (and not easily, I might add) I really enjoyed the post today

6:59 AM  
Blogger Janvangogh said...

What ever happened with the pigeon murders?

8:03 AM  
Blogger Catch said...

Forgiveness is something that comes much easier to me since I have gotten older for some reason.I think I am becoming quite the "Softy" in my older age. Good post Dr John and best wishes for a great Sunday, how wonderful it would be if we all could have been there to hear you speak!

8:23 AM  
Blogger sleeplessinoklahoma said...

Yes, forgiveness does get easier with age &, I think, a multitude of life experiences. We learn life is for living & way too short to spend being angry or upset with someone else. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. Thanks for sharing such an important subject. We need more forgiveness in the world. Blessings on your serman...I know it ROCKED!!!

Have a fabulous day. Glad everyone is safe after the fire. Yes...Nancy should be mayor.


Blessed be...

9:37 AM  
Anonymous Crazy Object B said...

Nice blog today I loved it. Paster gave a politacil serman . Intressting............

10:09 AM  
Blogger The Rev. Dr. Kate said...

I hope your All Saints celebration was wonderful! I was thinking about you preaching this morning as I told the story of my grandmother during my homily this morning! I am sure that God richly blessed your words this morning and trusting that He filled your heart with peace as you said "good-bye" to a place that has been so important to you and to the people God entrusted you. Blessings on the next stage of your journey!

10:22 AM  
Blogger butterflies said...

I agree with sleepless..as we go on in life,we realise that time is too short to be spent being angry at anyone!
Thankyou DR John..we appreciate you
Breathe easy

12:59 PM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Dr. John, I had a very abusive stepmother when I was quite young. God helped me to forgive her by reminding me that during the many long, lonely hours I spent locked in the closet I learned in a very personal way about the comfort Jesus provides. A very small part of the story is up on my inspirational blog today (mind you, a small part of three years still makes for a long post).

1:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Deciding to forgive is truly a good starting place because, guess what? Forgiveness is a choice.

This is no lie even if I am a pretty good liar! There actually was a moment when God gave me the gift of forgiveness. It was a gift that only a loving God would give because, as the receiver, I was too stupid and stubborn to accept the gift of forgiveness in and of my own free will. But, lo, when my angry thoughts were taken and replaced with the gift, I awakened to the power of God's love, not only for me but for all his woeful creation. Trouble has been that there is a catch: that being forgiveness is a choice and not an uninvited guest, and the journey has been a continuing one of inviting her back into my life.
Thank you Pastor Linna for being a part of the journey. Your friend from the Liar's Club - D.Bergall

3:18 PM  
Blogger Chana said...

Forgiveness is a key part of being a Christian. Can't be one and not follow Jesus footsteps. It has been one of my most precious gifts, when i have been forgiven for my many mistakes. I'm truly ashame for how much i have to work on really forgiving..for i say i do, i think i do but then, somehow, someday the memory of the pain reapears...
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Pastor's Marvel sermon wasn't good. I hope Eino doesn't go crazy with this mystery. He surely is patient.
How nice of Nancy to take people at their word. What a wonderful town to live in, that people trust each other like that.
I'm glad the Toldads are ok. That could have ended bad.
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The wonderfulness of everyone is all you deserve. You are respected and so loved.
I hope it was okay for me to borrow your picture. The one you posted for when you told us of the wonderful news..I used it for my post today..i hope it was alright..i didn't want to ruin the surprise so i didn't email you to ask.
So happy you had your family there...You know we would have all loved to have heard you..
And yes, we all look forward to hearing your voice and your words when it gets posted..what a treat that will be.
Sweet dreams tonight. Hugs all around.

6:46 PM  
Blogger Cuppojoe said...

Congrats on your big day, Doc... I know how good it feels to get up there and preach the word! However, I have to disagree with your statement that it wasn't your best sermon... Sure, I didn't hear it, but I believe that any sharing of the Word, any edification for the flock, is the best.

Good job and I'm looking forward to hearing it.

7:21 PM  
Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD said...

I guess you're right. Forgiving is very easy to do. It is the forgetting that is very hard to do. When someone says forgive me for the wrong they have done, it is very easy to say yes you're forgiven, but deep inside, I cannot forget the wrong that has been done. I guess that's not forgiving huh.

7:38 PM  
Blogger Margaret said...

I can't wait to hear your sermon.

You know Dr. John - what does one do when someone doesn't forgive you? If you offered sincere apologies, no excuses, confessed and came clean. Then they hold a grudge.

It's hard to be free then.

7:45 PM  
Blogger Josie said...

Congratulations on your sermon. I'll bet it was wonderful. I would like to hear it.

Re: forgiveness. I am still struggling to forgive someone for something awful that was done to me just a few months ago. I struggle with it every day. I am more tempted to hit them with a rolled up newspaper first. Then I think I can get about the business of forgiving them, (and then forgiving myself for hitting them...)

Forgiveness is very, very difficult when one is very hurt.

8:28 PM  
Blogger Chana said...

you have a new comment on your post of Sat. October 28/06..from Happy and Blue 2..thought you might want to know..hope you are sleeping soundly..

11:25 PM  
Blogger jafabrit said...

I don't always feel a need to forgive dr.john, that doesn't mean I have hate or anger or resentment in my heart. It doesn't mean I hold a grudge. It is rare that I have someone really really hurt me, but even then I have learned to let go and to accept that some people are just not good people. They will face the wrath they bring on themselves in this world and the next.

I know, a little different take.

5:12 AM  
Anonymous sandy said...

Good advice as always Dr. John, maybe its my age but I find I can't stay mad at anyone for long so you have to forgive. I hate it too when an arguement drags on to the next day.

Hope your son gets the audio to work, will give us something to look forward to.

10:38 AM  
Anonymous tina said...

Hello, John. Strange, isn't it, how something that can bring us such relief and peace of mind can be so darned difficult to do. Well, I guess that nothing worth having comes without some work on our part, and forgiveness is, indeed, work. But the rewards are tremendous. Thanks for that reminder.

8:58 PM  

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